Sometimes they come out of no where, sometimes you can sense one building and about to explode like a grenade. We have a nearly 2 year old and I would say her tantrums started at around 15 months old when we suddenly realised how much she understood and that perhaps she'd been occasionally "playing" us. This was a total shock to me, everyone has heard of the "terrible twos" so I wasn't expecting tantrums for some time. I guess it's like morning sickness where the name is rather deceiving. We've actually been very lucky, there have been big ones but never any that have resulted in complete public humiliation.... Yet! The latest tantrum came from nowhere, like a nasty surprise lurking round the corner. We'd had a good day but yet when it came to dinner time the little miss wanted "mummy" to put her in her chair and not "daddy". We could have averted this by me doing what she wanted but in part we try not to be bossed around by her, at least not all the time! So there were tears before she had her dinner and a fair bit of screaming but luckily after a few minutes and me talking to her calmly (after ignoring her whilst my son ate his dinner) she suddenly snapped out of it! I read about using a calm voice and also saying "I understand..." To them and so far it has worked but I'm not naive, I know this won't always been the case! But as we are fast approaching two and I'm curious, is there going to be more tantrums? Bigger tantrums? Some public shaming? I'd like to know how people handle the "terrible twos" and the tantrums especially in public so that I have some tactics in my armor! And how long does this last? There isn't answers to it all nor is every child the same but it's always good to know others have been through the same thing! One thing I do bear in mind when being tested is a quote I once heard "the behaviours that test you most at two will be the ones you're most proud of when they're older". I'm sure this will be a much revisited topic on here!
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